A Nigerian man, Gaius Chibueze, has recounted how he spent more than £34,000 sponsoring his younger brother’s education and settling him in the United Kingdom, only to feel abandoned after his brother became financially successful.
Chibueze said he paid his younger brother’s school fees, provided free accommodation and covered his feeding expenses throughout his stay, helping him complete his Master’s programme in the UK.
According to him, his brother eventually moved out, secured employment and accumulated enough money to establish an eight-chair barbing salon in a prime location in London.
However, Chibueze said his brother’s subsequent treatment of him and his children left him deeply disappointed.
He alleged that despite all the financial support he provided, his younger brother had never bought even a loaf of bread for his sons.
Chibueze further claimed that his brother secretly built a house in Nigeria without informing him, while also spending money on his personal life, including flying his girlfriend to Spain for her birthday.
The situation, he said, became more painful when he decided to test his brother’s willingness to assist him financially.
“ I lied that I was broke and asked him to send me £500,” Chibueze recounted.
He said his brother responded that he had exhausted his available funds but disclosed that he had ₦1 million that he was not using.
Chibueze said he subsequently sent his naira account details but claimed that three months later, his brother had neither transferred the money nor responded to the message.
The experience, according to him, fundamentally changed his perception of family and generosity.
“Family is not blood,” he declared, adding that he had reached a point where he no longer wanted to sacrifice his own wellbeing for people who, in his view, would not have done the same for him.
Chibueze said he had repeatedly told his younger brother and other family members that if their positions had been reversed, he believed they would have offered him only minimal assistance while expecting him to remain grateful.
He lamented that he had spent the first half of his life putting the needs of others ahead of his own, but said he had now decided to prioritise himself and his children.
“I have lived the first half of my life for others, and now I have decided to be wicked, selfish, and stingy for myself and my sons,” he said.
Describing his experience as a painful lesson about human relationships, Chibueze concluded: “Humans are terrible. Just buy a dog.”
